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Now that I have Failed, What is Next?

Now that I have Failed, What is Next?

Jim Kilgore,  www.JimKilgoreMinistries.com

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We have all failed at something in our lives, perhaps many times.   There is such pressure for us to “succeed” that we often ‘fail’ to realize there are some benefits to failing.  

Some people are so fearful of failing that they simply will not try a different course of action; will not take a calculated risk; will not attempt something new. Many people are plagued by something the experts have called, ‘Atychiphobia’. 

Atychiphobia is the abnormal, unwarranted and persistent fear of failure.   However, you don’t have to suffer from Atychiphobia, as this is a choice.   The fear of failing is an obsession that develops in the subconscious mind.  It has been transported into a person’s mind by some distress or traumatic situation.  This has caused the person fail to see any options to move forward.  Therefore, they lose confidence.  They fear making decisions.  They see little or no hope of ever succeeding.  

To this I desire to encourage you today.      Did you know that some very famous and highly successful had failed frequently in their road to success?   This should encourage you to realize that we can benefit from what the world calls failure.  

 

Did You Know That…?

 

Thomas Edison ‘failed’ over 10,000 times before he successfully invented the light bulb.

Babe Ruth, who held both the single season and career home-run records also ‘failed’ 1,330 times by striking out! 

Michael Jordan said, “I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”  In spite of all his failings, he is still considered to be the best basketball player of all time by many people.

Abraham Lincoln, the sixteenth President of the United States failed in many endeavors during his life.   Abraham Lincoln Simply Refused To Quit!    Probably the greatest example of persistence is Abraham Lincoln. Born into poverty, Lincoln was faced with defeat throughout his life. He lost eight elections, twice failed in business and suffered a nervous breakdown.   He could have quit many times – but he didn’t and because he didn’t quit, he became one of the greatest presidents in the history of our country.

 

Listed below is a sketch of his path to the White House:

 

  • 1816 His family was forced out of their home. He had to work to support them.
  • 1818 His mother died.
  • 1831 Failed in business.
  • 1832 Ran for state legislature – lost.
  • 1832 Also lost his job – wanted to go to law school but couldn’t get in.
  • 1833 Borrowed some money from a friend to begin a business and by the end of the year he was bankrupt. He spent the next 17 years of his life paying off this debt.
  • 1834 Ran for state legislature again – won.
  • 1835 Was engaged to be married, sweetheart died and his heart was broken.
  • 1836 Had a total nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months.
  • 1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature – defeated.
  • 1840 Sought to become elector – defeated.
  • 1843 Ran for Congress – lost.
  • 1846 Ran for Congress again – this time he won – went to Washington and did a good job.
  • 1848 Ran for re-election to Congress – lost.
  • 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state – rejected.
  • 1854 Ran for Senate of the United States – lost.
  • 1856 Sought the Vice-Presidential nomination at his party’s national convention – get less than 100 votes.
  • 1858 Ran for U.S. Senate again – again he lost.
  • 1860 Elected president of the United States.

 

 

 

Please understand that I am dealing with a wide range of failings.   Therefore, I am going to write a series of articles on various ‘failings.’      My thesis is simpleHow can we come back after a ‘failing’ and ensure that we will do a better job the next time?   What safeguards can we put into place to prevent this from happening again?  What can we learn to make us wiser, better, stronger?  How can I be restored to a place of usefulness and productivity for God after a failing?

 

Some Preliminary Thoughts On ‘Failing”

 

  • ·         Sometimes we must actually fail in order to succeed.  This will be a separate article.
  • ·         To a great degree, how we deal with our present failings will determine our future success.     A person that achieves any measure of success understands that a person may fail without ever being a failure.  Failings are often the steps upon which one must climb in order to bring the previously hidden knowledge into their lives.  It was Albert Einstein who said, “Insanity consists of doing the same thing over and over and hoping for different results.”  One of the most treasured characteristics we have is the ability to learn how to evaluate our experiences.  Simply failing brings no value into our lives. However, successfully evaluating our experiences will add enormous value to our lives.   During the teaching in this series I will teach the process that I use to evaluate my experiences, in anticipation that it will add value to your life as it has mine.  

 

  • ·         One only becomes a failure when they make the failing the final chapter in their book of life.

 

It was Dr. Jack Hyles, who shared a great Biblical principle when he said that a person could “Fail without being a Failure.”  This is what we will be writing about in future articles.

 

 

You Can Fail Without Being A Failure

Ten Principles Used in Pastoring God’s People ( Principles 9, 10 )

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Ten Principles in Pastoring God’s People (Principle Six)

Ten Principles in Pastoring God’s People  (Principle Six)

Written by Jim Kilgore, Missionary Evangelist

www.JimKilgoreMinistries.com

 

 

Pastor's heart                       

 

 

     There have been two Preachers that have GREATLY influenced my ministry as a Pastor

throughout the years, Dr. Jack Hyles from Hammond, Indiana, and Dr. Harris Steurmer from Danville, Illinois.  I had already mentioned Brother Hyles.  Now I would like to introduce you to another “Genuine Pastor, Pastor Steurmer.” 

     I was just starting my Bible College education when I was awakened at 6am by a strong, booming voice.  It was the voice of my Pastor having devotions on the front porch with an elderly woman who was no longer able to attend our Church regularly.  Yet there he was, each week, sharing God’s Word to this lady.  This man had a Church running over 600 in attendance, yet he still made this lady experience the  love of her Pastor.

     I saw this man many times lower his tall body down to shake a “Bus Kid’s “ hand or to rub a little boy head.   The impact of this on me as a very young preacher?   Everyone is important!    From the youngest baby in the nursery to the eldest person in Church,  Just  love them ALL!   Don’t treat anyone different!   This is where I genuinely developed my desire to “Add Value” to everyone.  Why?  Because EVERYONE is important to God and therefore must be important TO ME AS THEIR Pastor as well.   Once you love and value a person, the sincere expression of your appreciation of people will naturally flow from your heart.

  

Demonstrate SINCERE Appreciation

Pastor, please demonstrate sincere appreciation for what your People do to help you in your ministry.   Let them KNOW that you VALUE them for WHO they are, as well as for WHAT they do.   Don’t make the mistake of assuming the other person knows how you feel about them.   Thousands have stood at the casket of their loved one only to say, “They did not know how much I loved them.”   My advice Pastor, “Don’t Wait until it’s Too Late.” To share your love for them.

 

I want to share a poem that Brother Hyles wrote about this subject which dramatically

influenced me as a Pastor.

The Pastor’s Heart

by Dr. Jack Hyles

One day the load was especially heavy and the burdens were many. I had so many appointments that night and to be quite frank, I rebelled a little bit at having to solve the problems of others when I had so many myself. After counseling with many people, it was about midnight. As I started to go home, I had the following thoughts. Please read this poem very carefully.

 

“I have a burden, Pastor, that I’d like to lay on you.”  I listened, tho he never knew I had a burden too.

I took a tearful look toward mine; Then his came into view. ‘Twas plain to see my burden was The larger of the two.

I saw his load alongside mine, And, tho they both were real, The yoke he bore was made of wood, And mine was made of steel.

To him I said, “Come unto me; I’ll gladly carry thine”; Then whispered unto selfishness, “But who will carry mine?”

I softly laid my burden down To help him his to bear, While knowing that my heavy load I’m not allowed to share.

I’ll help him with his burden, then Regain mine after while,  When I will sigh and weep once more, While now I force a smile.

I felt the CHAINS OF BONDAGE till A CAPTIVE came to me. He bade me help him break the bands,  And aid him to be free.

I saw the fetters binding him, And felt a pity pain. For his were made of little rope, And mine of heavy chain.

I laid aside my heavy chains, So he, my help, could borrow. I’ll help free him of bondage now, And think of mine tomorrow.

A DOUBTER knocked at study door; I had an urge to groan, “Why bring your pebble doubt to me, When mine is made of stone?”

I smiled at him and listened, while Believing in my doubt. I laid it down reluctantly, And feigned about a happy shout.

I sat ALONE in darkened room, And felt a shadow’s knife. Another came to share with me Some darkness in his life.

As I compared my night with his, His dark possessed a lack. For his was just an evening shade, While mine was midnight black.

I slowly laid my nighttime down, To help him seek for light. I’ll tread my dimming path again, When I have made his bright.

A TROUBLED SOUL came to my door, A problem to confide. I had a problem, too, that day; ‘Twas hard for me to hide.

My problem was a mountain steep, And his was just a hill. My problem was an ocean-wide, And his a tiny nil.

Yet, ’tis my lot to fill his need, And put mine on the shelf. For I must lay my heartache down, And hide it from myself.

He told me of a broken heart, While mine was breaking too. I told him of a mending God Who maketh all things new.

He told me of his thirsty soul; I gave him living water. He said he was a broken vase; I told him of the Potter.

Another came when I was SICK To say he had the flu. His fever was a hundred-one, And mine a hundred-two.

Another came when I was FAINT, To say that he was weak. Another came when I was DUMB, To say he could not speak.

Another WEEPING SEEKER came, For me, his tears to dry. I went alone and wiped my eyes,  Then told him not to cry.

Another came when I was TIRED, To say he needed rest. I lifted him with weary arms, And tried to give him zest.

AND NOW, IT’S LATE, and all have gone, Each one to his abode. So I must find my problems, and Regain my heavy load.

Where is the burden I had borne? I had it while ago! Where is the problem I must solve? I left it here, I know!

Where is the darkness I once knew? I now see only light. The chains, the tears, the pains, the fears are nowhere now in sight!

I cannot find my broken heart!  Where is my fevered brow? I have a song! the tears are gone!
I cannot find them now!

My sickness, now, bath turned to health! And trust replaceth fright! Assurance covers all my doubts;
My darkness now is light!

I heard a voice from Heaven say “My child, ’tis always true: When you take care of others’ needs,
I will take care of you.”

Ten Principles in Pastoring God’s People

Ten Principles in Pastoring God‘s People
Written by Jim Kilgore, Missionary Evangelist

Jack Hyles

I answered the call to Preach 39 years ago. What a privilege and honor to be a Preacher and Pastor. Little did I know how much I had to learn.  In fact, the older I get, the more I yearn to learn so I might become a sharper tool for God.   What I did learn about being a Pastor, I learned from the man in the picture, Dr. Jack Hyles. He taught me how to love your people; that EVERYONE was important, whether it be a Bus Kid or a Millionaire.  God loved them all.

This is what this message is about. I want to share ten principles of being an effective Pastor.  I am certain that other Good Men might have a somewhat different list, and this is okay, but I can assure you, that if you faithfully follow these ten principles, your ministry will be richer than it might have been.

1.    Preach the Word. Never compromise God’s Word. II Timothy 4:2: “Preach the Word…”      II Timothy 4:3-4: Preach the Word!  This is our Calling, our Challenge, and our Commission!

Verses 3-4 of this passage describe a scene that seems amazingly contemporary. “For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears; And they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables.”

Why are we to Preach the Word?

a)   Because the time will come when men will not endure sound doctrine!
The time has arrived in which people not only reject the truth, but they have even refused to listen to the truth.

b)   These men will prefer lies instead of the truth because they have what Paul calls “itching ears.” “Itching ears” are ears that are greatly desire to hear every new idea, every new theory, and every wild idea, no matter how unbiblical or farfetched it may be. People with itching ears want Preachers to tell them what they Want to hear instead of What they need to hear.

c)   Unfortunately, as Paul had predicted, the day would come, and it has certainly arrived, that  there would be many teachers who will be most happy to tickle the itching ears of their hearers. Preachers, Preach the Word!

2.   Love God’s People with ALL of your heart. This will lead you to “Being there for your People.”

•   I recently heard of a “pastor” who had a faithful member in and out of the hospital for six months and yet he NEVER visited this lady. His reason? “I don’t do hospital visits, he said. This is not my job.”  Unbelievable!  Jesus left the 99 to go after the one!  Should not we as well?

3.   Use your Ministry to Build your People; NEVER use your People to build your Name! Your job as a Preacher is to preach for Impact, rather than to Impress others! One preacher said, “You cannot be thinking about yourself and impacting another person’s life.”

4.   You WILL Pray or you WILL Fail!  A man can preach no better than he prays.

5.   A Pastor must be a Servant not a Superstar. It is not about us. It is about being used of God to serve in the very way that Jesus served. The greatest of these are the servants. (Matthew 18:1-4; Matthew 23:11; Mark 9; Luke 9; Luke 22).

By the way, you will never outgrow service!  It is not something you do until the church is big enough to get others to do it, and then you can start having others serve you. No, Jesus, God’s Son came to serve, not to be served!  So should this our attitude always be.

• Near the end of his life, General William Booth, founder of the Salvation Army, sent a message to his co-laborers that contained nothing except the word “others”. That was the essence of his life. Live for others, not self. The songwriter said it best for me, “Others Lord, Yes Others. Let this my motto be. Help me to live in such a self-forgetful way, that others may see Christ in me.”

Which Principle hit home with you the most?   Please leave your comment and the reason why.  It will help many Readers.

(The second five principles of Pastoring will be posted on 12-6-13)

We Expect the Best from Others, but do we Expect the Best from Ourselves

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We Expect the Best from Others, but do we Expect the Best from Ourselves

 

     How often have we walked into a restaurant or department store only to leave disappointed because we did not receive the Brand Promise during our visit.   We left thinking, “They did not give me their best.”   Yet how often have we looked at our lives and come to the same conclusion, “I have not given my best to my Church, to my Work, or even to my Family.” 

     It appears that many people, including Christians, are happy with ‘being average’.  We must understand how Average is the enemy of Greatness.   Here is the basis of my belief.   Average identifies you as the Best of the Worst, yet it also identifies you as the Worst of the Best!  

     No one pays a great salary to those who are merely average.   No Pastor of a growing, thriving Church wants to hire staff that will be mediocre and average at best.   They are praying and searching for those that daily will give the best they have to offer to bring onto their staff.

     As the ministry God has led me to start, JimKilgoreMinistries, continues to develop, I am constantly searching to add men from all over the world to our International staff.   We currently have a Regional Director for JKM in Central America, Pastor Timothy Aguire from Mexico.  We also have a Regional Director for Asia, Pastor Jonathan Aparre from the Philippines.  We have also assembled a team in Asia called, JKM Team Asia.   Six godly men were selected because of their love for Jesus Christ and their passionate desire to win souls and start new Churches on every Continent.

     If I had suspected they would only commit to an average effort for JKM, they would not have been selected.   God’s work, especially on the International level, demands commitment to excellence and a dedication and urgency in reaching the World with the Gospel.  

     A friend asked me a fascinating question several years ago, “Jim, if you were in charge of quality control of a factory, what percent of errors would you tolerate?”    “None,” I responded. “I’d be unhappy with anything less than 100 percent quality.”

     He told me that he’d asked that same question to several people and their responses varied from 95 % to 99.9%. To the person who would tolerate quality errors of one-tenth of one percent, he showed a list with the heading:   If 99.9 %  is  Good enough, then:

  • Twelve newborns will be given to the wrong parents daily.
  • 114,500 mismatched pairs of shoes will be shipped this year.
  • 18,322 pieces of mail will be mishandled in the next hour.
  • 2.5 million books will be shipped with the wrong covers.
  • 315 entries in Webster’s dictionary will be misspelled.
  • 800,000 credit cards in circulation will have incorrect card holder information on their magnetic strips. 
  • 2 million documents will be lost by the IRS this year.
  • 20,000 incorrect drug prescriptions will be written this year.
  • 291 pace maker operations will be performed incorrectly.

 

Do Your Best

You can’t be perfect
You can’t always be the greatest
What commands the most respect
Is your effort to do your best

When the curtain is finally down And the music has finally stopped
There is nothing more satisfying to self
Than to say, ‘I did my best’

It’s healing to say the least
And empowering to hear people say
‘All the labor of your hands
Will never be in vain’

In those words you’ll find perfection
They mirror all your effort
If ever in need of courage
Pick this poem and read again

You might not be the greatest
Or the best that ever lived
Provided you do your best
You’ll be, one of the greatest of all time

David Beckham

Points to Ponder on our Personal Effort

 

  1.  Can we accept less than 100 percent?
  2. To improve upon “average” I have some great advice: SMALL changes over time will make BIG difference! Improvement is achieved in INCHES rather than in MILES!
  3. Advancement only comes with continually doing more than is expected from you.
  4. “The best preparation for tomorrow is doing your best today.”  Jackson Brown
  5. You are doing your best only when you are continually trying to improve what you are doing.
  6. Successful people were not born that way.  They became successful by daily doing those things which the unsuccessful person refuses to do.

 

Someone once said, “If I continue to do what I have been doing, then I will continue to get the same results.”     The question is, do you really want the same results you have been achieving?

Making Positive Changes in your Life

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Making Positive Changes in Your Life

By Jim Kilgore, Missionary Evangelist

     Changes. We all try to make them. Many fail in the process. Was it a lack of commitment? Was it a lack of motivation? Perhaps the failure came simply because the person did not know how to properly create the change they desired. Though change is hard, it is NOT impossible.

     Growing up I heard the following phrase many times: “You cannot teach an old dog new tricks.” This was applied to different people. It was also used as an excuse for not making the necessary changes in one’s life. I have a problem with this philosophy however. First, you and I are not dogs. Second, God has called the Christian to a life of continual change.         II Corinthians 5:17;               II Peter 3:18;  Ephesians 4: 15-32. Third, we are not talking about “tricks”, we are speaking about behaviors. ALL behaviors have been learned. Therefore, we can learn new and better behaviors.

The STRUGGLE in the change process

To make changes, that is to say, turn bad habits into good habits, requires effort. Lots of effort. We naturally tend to avoid effort whenever possible. This of course makes change much more of a challenge.

 

I have been taught and have certainly discovered this to be true: People will basically change for one of three reasons.

 

1.   People will change when they honestly WANT to.
2.   People will change when they really NEED to.
3.   People will change when they sincerely WANT to.

 

 

The STRATEGY in the change process:

1.   You need a PURPOSE. Once you do, this will become your MANDATE.
2.   You need a PLAN. Once you do, this will become your MAP.
3.   You need PRIORITIES. Once you do, this will become your MATRIX.
4.   You need PASSION. Once you do, this will become your MOTIVATION.
5.   You need PEOPLE. Once you do, this will become your MEASUREMENT.

 

 

The SOLUTION in the change process:

1.   You must RECOGNIZE what exactly needs to be changed
2.   You must RECORD your Reasons for wanting to change
3.   You must REMOVE the old habit or behavior (Ephesians 4:15-32)
4.   You must REPLACE the old with a new, godly habit (Ephesians 4:15-32). We call this the     principle of replacement. This is simply replacing the negative with the positive.
5.   You must RESIST the temptation to return to the old way of life (Resist the Devil and he will flee from you).
6.   You must REPORT to another person to share your progress and struggles.
7.   You must REJOICE and celebrate your successes.

 

Though change is hard, it is NOT impossible

No One Can Make You Feel Like a Loser Without Your Personal Permission

No One Can Make You Feel Like a Loser Without Your Personal Permission

                            Jim  Kilgore,  Missionary Evangelist

Loser

     Years ago, Olympic diver Greg Louganis was asked “How do you deal with all the pressure and stress that comes from competing at such a high level?” He simply said, “When I get up on the platform the second before I dive I say to myself ‘Even if I blow this dive my mother will still love me.”

     Much of my life as a young person was spent feeling inferior to nearly every other person.  I was reminded by the “in- crowd” that I just didn’t fit in with them.  I was laughed at, ridiculed, left alone.  Then it happened, I began to excel at sports and suddenly I had “friends.”    My self-esteem began to rise, yet even today at times I am haunted by feelings of inadequacy.

    What I am about to share is what I read when the serpent of inadequacy visits me.  I do not know whom to credit, but I thank God for the paper I have read for at least 35 years.  It has encouraged me; inspired me; and provided hope to me.   This true story reminds me to take my eyes off of the negative and disparaging remarks of others.  It reminds me that I have been created in the very mage of God (Genesis 1:26).

From a “DUNCE to a GENIUS

     When Victor Seribriakoff was 15, his teacher told him he would never finish school and that he should drop out and learn a trade.  Victor took the advice and for the next 17 years he was doing a variety of jobs.  He had been told he wasn’t very smart, and guess what?  He lived down to this belief others had of him. 

An Incredible Transformation was about to Take place

     When he was 32 years old, an amazing transformation took place in Victor’s life.  He was required to take an evaluation at work.  The evaluation revealed that he WAS a Genius with an IQ of 161.  Guess what happened next?   Since he learned of his “Genius Status” he began writing books, secured a number of patents and became a very successful businessman!

     Perhaps the most significant event for this former high school drop-out was his election as the Chairman of the International Mensa Society!   The Mensa Society has only one membership qualification.  You must have a minimum IQ of 140.

           

How Many Other Victors are Living DOWN to the Expectations of Other People?

     The story of Victor Seribriakoff truly makes me wonder how many geniuses we have walking around feeling like a loser because of any of the following:

  •       Sin(s) that has been committed, confessed, and cast-a-way. 
  •       Social Standing.   From a lower income group.  
  •       Struggling with a new task or job.

 

I had a man tell me DAILY the following phrases when I was in construction at the age of 19.

  •       You are Dumber than Dirt
  •       You will NEVER amount to anything
  •       You are so Stupid

     I have learned not to pay much attention to the Critics (they can reveal blind-spots to me).     I have learned not to pay much attention to the Compliments either.  Both can affect me adversely.   I simply remind myself that “I am what I am by the Grace of God.”

     Once Victor started listening to the correct choices around him, his life completely changed!  When he saw himself differently, he started living differently.    Proverbs 23:7 says: “For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he…”

 

Genius

What about you?  What is your story?   How have you dealt with feelings of Inadequacy?

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