Category Archives: Failing

We Can Fail Forward or we can Remain in the City called Regret!

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We Can Fail Forward or we can Remain in the City called Regret!

  I John 1:9

                                                        

 Okay, you sinned!  You have been plagued with a daily visitor.  He has visited your heart and mind every day since you sinned.  He reminds you that you are worthless; that your life is now irrelevant, and absolutely unable to be used of God again.  The visitor’s goes by the name of Guilt. 

The truth is, as you would readily admit, is that you are guilty.  You have committee the sin against God.  There is no covering the sin.  You have acknowledged this sin. You are not proud of it,and even wonder how it could had happened in the first place.

However, what Guilt does not want you to recognize, is that once you went to God seeking His forgiveness, that God has already forgiven the offense.  Our text makes this clear from  I John 1:9.

Unfortunately, many people, including those in the Christian family, will not let you forget what you have done wrong.  There will be articles written; Facebook posts printed; Tweets dispatched to remind the world of what a failure you have become.   Even though they claim for themselves, the forgiveness that God has for all believers, when it comes to another Believer, they seem to slam the door of grace shut!

 So my advice to you, should you find yourself expecting to find grace, from those living in the “Grace is for me and not for you neighborhood” is simple.  If you’re holding out for the universal acceptance and grace from this community, I’m afraid that you will be holding up in your room for a very long time.   While is it wonderful whenever others accept that God has forgiven you, you cannot, and must not allow another’s treatment of you to negate what God has already given to you: forgiveness. 

 

How Can and Should we Face Failure?

 

1.   First, we must CONSIDER our sins and failing.  The Bible speaks of this in Psalm 139:23-24: “Search me, O God, and know my heart: try me, and know my thoughts:   And see if there be any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.”  The word for search means “to ransack.”  It carries the idea of a thief breaking into your home and going through every area of your house to search for valuables.   We must invite and the cooperate with the Holy Spirit, as He searches our hearts to reveal that which is offensive to a holy God.  No attempt of a cover-up, like many governments and people are prone to do.   Complete cooperation with the Holy Spirit. Once our sins have been revealed, we may now go to God to confess our sins.

 

2.  Second, we must completely CONFESS our sin and failing to God.   We cannot compromise the sin.  We must admit that we had sinned against God and perhaps to others. 

 

  • Jeremiah 33:8: And I will cleanse them from all their iniquity, whereby they have sinned against me; and I will pardon all their iniquities, whereby they have sinned, and whereby they have transgressed against me.

 

 

3.   Next, we are required to CAST-AWAY our sins.    Proverbs 28:13 says: “He that covereth his sins shall not prosper: but whoso confesseth and forsaketh them shall have mercy.

 

Create an Environment where You are not Placing Yourself in an Area of Temptation.

 

If a person’s sin was drinking, then one might want to write down the things which could lead him to the cesspool of sin and make a commitment to God to avoid these areas of temptation. .    It would be wise to stay away from liquor scenes.  Simply turn the channel when they appear in a commercial or in a TV program.  Avoid any connection with liquor at all costs. You might need want to stay out of restaurants that serve it; avoid parties that would make it easily available to you.

 

The Principle of Replacement

The Principle of Replacement is found in the Book of Ephesians Chapter Four.  We are to replace lying with truthfulness; stealing with giving; anger with kindness; unforgiveness with forgiveness; bitterness with dealing with the offense we have with another, before going to sleep at night.   

The practical application would be to replace the sinful, old behaviors with new positive, Biblical habits.  This is how we will get victory over that which has caused us failing and sin in the past.

  • An encouraging verse to every Believer that has failed is:  Proverbs 24:16, ‘For though a righteous man may fall seven times, he rises again.”

 

  •  Listen, EVERYONE FAILS God at some point, and perhaps even frequently.  What we need to remember is that we do not have to stay down.  As Goldsmith said, “Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising each time we fall.”

 


Have You Lost Your Purpose?

Have You Lost Your Purpose?        I Samuel 17 

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What are you truly passionate about?  What makes you want to get up out of bed every morning?   What, at the mere thought of it, incites you to action?   In other words, “What is your purpose in life?”

Many people have a position, perhaps as a Pastor, Sunday School Teacher, Youth Director, or as the CEO of a Company.  Even though they possess a position, they might admit they have lost their passion for this position.

The mistake often made is when a person Possesses a Position without a Purpose, this will lead to a spirit of Complacency.   Time is far too short to allow Complacency to enter into our lives and ministry. In I Samuel 17:29 we see where David had a cause.  His cause was to defeat the giant Goliath because he was mocking God and God’s people.      Again I ask you,  “What is your Purpose?  What is it that drives you each day?” What are you truly focused on?

  More specifically,what is your purpose in being a Leader?  Hopefully, it is to Influence others Biblically and to Impact this world for Jesus Christ.   Why do you want to help people?  Finally ask yourself this question, “What is the contribution that you want to make in your lifetime?” No matter what your age, or what position you are in your life, you will never finish contributing. A truly great leader is someone who is always seeking to do more for God and to impact this world for Jesus Christ!.

 

Is your Purpose Being Pursued with Passion?

 

When you find a Purpose that is Bigger than anything you ever dreamed of, and Pursue it with Passion, it’s amazing how the supernatural can become the normal.  God wants Men and Women of Purpose, Passion, and Power to Pursue the Phenomenal for Him!  

 

Will you ask God to Provide the Passion you once had?   You Can Do Something truly Significant for God IF you will believe in God’s ability to work though you for His glory!

Pastor, Missionary, Evangelist, when you answered God’s call to preach, what did you one day hope to accomplish for the Cause of Christ? What was your over-riding purpose?  Are you closer to the achievement of this cause?  Has your passion for this cause grown over the years?  Has it intensified?

 

Or, has something sidetracked you and made this cause appear to be too complicated for you to pursue anymore?   Listen, “Don’t let your Dream Die!  Get back into the battle and get busy for God once again.    Don’t listen to those who have discouraged you from pursuing God’s Dream for your life.  I am glad that Samson did not listen to that inner voice that said, “You have sinned, you can no longer serve God.”  

The Bible clearly teaches that we all have much usefulness in us. We are important to God!   Therefore, get on your knees, accept God’s forgiveness, and ask God to use you for Him once again.   Listen to those who are encouraging you to do more for God rather than those who says, “You have blown it; God will never use you again; it is all over for you.”  John 8:44 reminds us Satan is a liar and the Father of it.  Will you believe God or will you continue to believe Satan?

   I thank God that Samson, even with the scars of sin so evident, was able to be used of God in a great way before he died.   I am glad that John-Mark, who once quit on God, repented of his sin and was able to become most profitable to God and more specifically, the Apostle Paul.  Paul asked for John-Mark to come to him prior to his death.   God was still using John-Mark.  

 

Every Person in the Bible had Failed God

 

Show me one person in Bible that did not fail God at some point in their lives; yet God was able to use them after thoroughly getting right with God.   Adam and failed God through their disobedience; Abraham failed in his lack of faith and disobedience;  Moses murdered a man;  David committed adultery and even set up the woman’s husband to be killed in battle;  Peter failed Jesus by denying Him three times in one evening.  Yet they were all used of God after they returned to God and accepted God’s grace and forgiveness.    I am not glorifying sin, but I am demonstrating the grace of God in the lives of people that have failed.  Perhaps we failed in our walk with God; perhaps failed financially; perhaps in a new endeavor. Yet we can may still be able to accomplish great things for God.  

 

Failing is Reversible!

 

To use an old saying from our friends in Texas, “It does not matter how much milk you spill as long as you don’t lose the cow.”  Once again, failings are not irreversible.  Keep things in perspective; learn from them; and use them to help other people.

I believe that you Can and Must move forward on the heels of Adversity and Failing.    I have asked myself the following questions to assist me in moving forward when things did not go as planned:

A)    God, what are you trying to teach me through this situation?  What wrong assumptions did I make?   What “Blind-spots” are you revealing to me?

B)     God, how can I use my mistakes/sins to help other people?

C)    God, are you opening a new door of ministry for me through this failing

Listen, you must quit allowing your past to hold you hostage today!

I greatly desire to add value to other people.   I have lived my life trying to see other people ‘with the ability to become’!   I strongly believe there is something useful in EVERY person, no matter what their past or present is like, God can still use them!   I believe it is our responsibility to encourage and to provide Biblical Hope to others. 

I personally believe that the greatest difference between those who remain Average and those that Achieve great things in life, will be determined in part, by each individual’s perception and response to failings.    You can look at the failing as an end to your calling and dreams, or, you can choose to use those failings to increase your ability to succeed for the cause of Jesus Christ!

 

Will YOU choose to Accept life as a Hostage to your failings, or will YOU choose to Answer the above questions that will focus on Your Future, rather than your Past!  The Choice Really is Yours!

Now that I have Failed, What is Next?

Now that I have Failed, What is Next?

Jim Kilgore,  www.JimKilgoreMinistries.com

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We have all failed at something in our lives, perhaps many times.   There is such pressure for us to “succeed” that we often ‘fail’ to realize there are some benefits to failing.  

Some people are so fearful of failing that they simply will not try a different course of action; will not take a calculated risk; will not attempt something new. Many people are plagued by something the experts have called, ‘Atychiphobia’. 

Atychiphobia is the abnormal, unwarranted and persistent fear of failure.   However, you don’t have to suffer from Atychiphobia, as this is a choice.   The fear of failing is an obsession that develops in the subconscious mind.  It has been transported into a person’s mind by some distress or traumatic situation.  This has caused the person fail to see any options to move forward.  Therefore, they lose confidence.  They fear making decisions.  They see little or no hope of ever succeeding.  

To this I desire to encourage you today.      Did you know that some very famous and highly successful had failed frequently in their road to success?   This should encourage you to realize that we can benefit from what the world calls failure.  

 

Did You Know That…?

 

Thomas Edison ‘failed’ over 10,000 times before he successfully invented the light bulb.

Babe Ruth, who held both the single season and career home-run records also ‘failed’ 1,330 times by striking out! 

Michael Jordan said, “I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”  In spite of all his failings, he is still considered to be the best basketball player of all time by many people.

Abraham Lincoln, the sixteenth President of the United States failed in many endeavors during his life.   Abraham Lincoln Simply Refused To Quit!    Probably the greatest example of persistence is Abraham Lincoln. Born into poverty, Lincoln was faced with defeat throughout his life. He lost eight elections, twice failed in business and suffered a nervous breakdown.   He could have quit many times – but he didn’t and because he didn’t quit, he became one of the greatest presidents in the history of our country.

 

Listed below is a sketch of his path to the White House:

 

  • 1816 His family was forced out of their home. He had to work to support them.
  • 1818 His mother died.
  • 1831 Failed in business.
  • 1832 Ran for state legislature – lost.
  • 1832 Also lost his job – wanted to go to law school but couldn’t get in.
  • 1833 Borrowed some money from a friend to begin a business and by the end of the year he was bankrupt. He spent the next 17 years of his life paying off this debt.
  • 1834 Ran for state legislature again – won.
  • 1835 Was engaged to be married, sweetheart died and his heart was broken.
  • 1836 Had a total nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months.
  • 1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature – defeated.
  • 1840 Sought to become elector – defeated.
  • 1843 Ran for Congress – lost.
  • 1846 Ran for Congress again – this time he won – went to Washington and did a good job.
  • 1848 Ran for re-election to Congress – lost.
  • 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state – rejected.
  • 1854 Ran for Senate of the United States – lost.
  • 1856 Sought the Vice-Presidential nomination at his party’s national convention – get less than 100 votes.
  • 1858 Ran for U.S. Senate again – again he lost.
  • 1860 Elected president of the United States.

 

 

 

Please understand that I am dealing with a wide range of failings.   Therefore, I am going to write a series of articles on various ‘failings.’      My thesis is simpleHow can we come back after a ‘failing’ and ensure that we will do a better job the next time?   What safeguards can we put into place to prevent this from happening again?  What can we learn to make us wiser, better, stronger?  How can I be restored to a place of usefulness and productivity for God after a failing?

 

Some Preliminary Thoughts On ‘Failing”

 

  • ·         Sometimes we must actually fail in order to succeed.  This will be a separate article.
  • ·         To a great degree, how we deal with our present failings will determine our future success.     A person that achieves any measure of success understands that a person may fail without ever being a failure.  Failings are often the steps upon which one must climb in order to bring the previously hidden knowledge into their lives.  It was Albert Einstein who said, “Insanity consists of doing the same thing over and over and hoping for different results.”  One of the most treasured characteristics we have is the ability to learn how to evaluate our experiences.  Simply failing brings no value into our lives. However, successfully evaluating our experiences will add enormous value to our lives.   During the teaching in this series I will teach the process that I use to evaluate my experiences, in anticipation that it will add value to your life as it has mine.  

 

  • ·         One only becomes a failure when they make the failing the final chapter in their book of life.

 

It was Dr. Jack Hyles, who shared a great Biblical principle when he said that a person could “Fail without being a Failure.”  This is what we will be writing about in future articles.

 

 

You Can Fail Without Being A Failure

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