Are you tired of losing one battle after another? Are you weary of facing, fighting, and fleeing in defeat? The enemy of your soul has you right where he wants you: discouraged and disillusioned.
God’s Word can help YOU turn Defeat into Victory!
In Philippians chapter two Paul exposes the second enemy of our Victory which is People. Paul shares with us HOW we can avoid being defeated because of:
What people say to us
Don’t say to us; and
How they treat us.
Have you not experienced the sharp barb of criticism? been slandered? or, experienced Gossip concerning your character? It happens every day, from a variety of sources, even with-in the Body of Believers.
Paul was facing two main “People Problems” in chapter two: False Teachers and two women who were creating havoc in the Church because they would not handle their interpersonal issues Biblically.
My biggest issue is the slowness and ineptness which many people possess . I live a busy life and I am easily irritated by needing to “wait on other people” for me to move forward with my project. I must admit that I stumble in defeat when I fail to practice the antidote to the people and personnel problems in my life.
The Solution is….
You must LEARN to deal with the Irritations from People. If you refuse, you will NEVER experience any sustained seasons of victory.
- You need to RECORD each of the Character Qualities that irritate you. Is it when they are late, and this bothers you? Is it when they make a commitment and back out at the last minute? Is it when they fellowship and turn the subject to gossip and criticism of another?
- Dr. Jack Hyles taught a series of lessons at his Pastor’s School in which, as I recall, he exhorted us to write down the following:
a) Who can’t you Work with and why? Perhaps you could fellowship with them, but should avoid doing any work together. I certainly have individuals in my life which fit this situation.
b) Who can’t you Play games with, but could possible work with, and why? Perhaps the extreme competitive nature of the person would forfeit enjoying the recreation , however, you work in harmony together.
c) What Subjects would it be wise not to discuss with certain people? Most people, even Christians, have certain topics which may become a trigger to wrong and improper emotions. Once these “triggers” are pushed, words are spoken harshly and in haste. Regret soon fills your heart, but the damage is done. Apologies must be spoken; amends must be made.
d) Don’t place a person on Trial everyday! Allow others to make an occasional mistake in the relationship. Extend the same grace which Jesus “daily” extends to you. No one need score a 100% to get an ‘A’ on the test. Neither should our friends be forced to prove their friendship by always behaving in a perfect manner.
Yes, by practicing these simple, yet effective principles, you can avoid many of the people conflicts which would normally arise.
What are some of the ways in which you have dealt with people which have maintained your victory? Share them and we can all benefit from your experience.